“Main theek lag rahi hoon na?”
“Mujhe ye karna chahiye?”
Kabhi aapne khud ko baar-baar yeh puchte hue pakda hai?
Dheere-dheere…
aapne decision lena nahi, approval lena shuru kar diya?
Especially as women — aur aur bhi zyada agar aap introvert hain —
hum apni awaaz se pehle, dusron ki awaaz sunte hain.
Aur isi process mein… khud par trust karna bhool jaate hain.
मेरी पसंद…
✍️ WRITTEN BY DIMPLE SINGH
पसंद था मुझे बेपरवाह रहना,
पसंद था मुझे खुल के हँसना,
पसंद था अपने ही ख्यालों में खोए रहना…
पर ख्यालों में खोते-खोते
कब हकीकत में खो गई,
पता ही नहीं चला…
“तुम्हारा favourite खाना बनाया है…”
“देखो, तुम्हारा favourite colour पहना है…”
हर दिन…
मैं सबकी पसंद जीती रही,
और खुद को भूलती रही
फिर एक दिन…
थक गई मैं,
और कह दिया—
अब बस…
कभी तुम भी तो मेरा ख्याल करो,
कभी तो मेरी पसंद भी पूछो…
पर जब एक पल को ठहरी मैं…
तो एहसास हुआ—
मेरी पसंद तो मुझे अब खुद ही नहीं पता।
ख्यालों की boss थी कभी मैं,
आज हकीकत में खो गई…
जो पूरी दुनिया को मुट्ठी में रखती थी,
आज खुद ही
अपनी ही मुट्ठी में बंद हो गई…
अगर आपने भी कभी खुद को खोया है… तो आगे पढ़िए।
1. Stop Seeking Validation for Your Looks
You don’t need someone’s approval for:
- How you look
- What you wear
- Whether you look fat or thin
- Your hairstyle, your clothes, your skin tone
People’s opinions change every day.
But your confidence should not.
2. Stop Seeking Validation for Your Daily Choices
Simple things like:
- Going somewhere
- Trying a new diet
- Starting a new habit
- Taking a small step
…should not depend on someone else’s “yes.”
If you feel it is right for you, follow your choice.
3. Stop Seeking Validation for Your Dreams
Your dreams belong to you — not your partner, not your parents, not society.
- Want to start something new? Start.
- Want to learn something? Learn.
- Want to change your life? Change.
People will always have opinions, but your life is shaped by your decisions, not their doubts.
4. Don’t Argue — Just Listen, Respect, and Decide for Yourself
You don’t have to argue with your husband, parents, or loved ones.
Not every decision needs a debate or explanation.
Listen to them.
Respect what they say.
Take their suggestions with an open mind.
But after all that…
make the final decision according to what feels right to you.
Create a calm, clear boundary:
- “This is my decision.”
- “This makes me happy.”
- “I respect your view, but I choose this.”
You’re not disrespecting them —
you’re simply respecting yourself.
You don’t need arguments.
You need confidence.
5. Stop Changing Yourself Every Time
When you change your decision again and again:
- You look confused
- You feel under-confident
- You depend more on others
- You lose trust in your inner voice
It is okay to discuss with parents, husband, or children.
But make the final decision from your inner strength — not from fear.
6. Validate Yourself First
You don’t need outside validation when you have:
- Self-belief
- Self-respect
- Self-awareness
- Self-confidence
When you approve your decision, 80% of your stress disappears.
7. Your Life Becomes Stronger When You Stop Seeking Validation
Everything becomes easy when you decide with courage:
- Your confidence grows
- Your identity becomes strong
- Your peace increases
- Your dreams get clearer
- Your life becomes your own
When you stop seeking validation, you start living for yourself — not for others.
Final Thought: Your Life, Your Choices, Your Courage
Remember this:
Your family is a part of your life,
but they cannot live your life for you.
If you want to succeed,
If you want to grow,
If you want to become the woman you dream of…
Then stop seeking validation and start trusting the powerful woman inside you.
Your decisions matter.
Your dreams matter.
Your happiness matters.
And you matter.
If you’ve been carrying everything silently and feel unheard,
it may help to speak to someone who listens without judgment.
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When you stop asking for permission,
you start living your own life.